Self-Trust

Have you ever found yourself second-guessing every decision? Seeking reassurance before making a move? Or feeling like you just can’t trust your own judgement?

That’s what a lack of self-trust can feel like — and for many, it’s an invisible thread running through anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, and indecision.

Self-trust isn’t about always having the “right” answer. It’s about believing that whatever happens, you can handle it. That you can listen to yourself, choose what feels right, and self-correct with compassion if needed.

Where Self-Trust Gets Lost

Often, self-trust is shaken early in life. Maybe your feelings weren’t validated. Maybe your boundaries were dismissed, or you were made to feel your choices were “wrong” or “too much.”

Over time, you might have learned to outsource your instincts — to rely on others to tell you who you are, what’s right, or what’s “safe.”

But here’s the truth: that inner voice never left you. It’s just waiting to be heard again.

Ways to Rebuild Self-Trust

• Pause and check in. Ask yourself: What do I really want or need right now?

• Validate your inner knowing. Even if others wouldn’t agree, your feelings are real and worth honouring.

• Make small, low-stakes choices. Practice tuning in and acting on what feels right for you.

• Let go of needing it to be perfect. You can learn and adjust without punishing yourself.

• Notice your inner critic. Is it keeping you safe, or keeping you stuck?

Final Thought

Self-trust isn’t a destination — it’s a relationship. Like any relationship, it can be rebuilt with time, patience, and care. You are allowed to trust yourself again. You’ve always known more than you realise.