Feeling Anxious? Let’s Talk Self-Care That Actually Helps
It’s been a little while since I updated the blog, life’s been busy. But if there’s one thing that’s been coming up a lot lately, both personally and in sessions, it’s this: anxiety. And the way it sneaks in when we’re run down, overwhelmed, or just trying to hold everything together.
So, let’s talk about it. And how self-care can actually support us when anxiety shows up.
What Anxiety Really Feels Like
Anxiety isn’t always full-blown panic. Sometimes it’s quieter and harder to spot.
A racing mind that won’t switch off
Dread over simple tasks
Trouble sleeping or feeling constantly wired
Avoiding things that feel “too much”
Feeling like you're failing, even when you're doing your best
If any of that rings true, you’re not alone, and you're not weak. You're likely running on empty.
Why “Just Relax” Doesn’t Work
You’ve probably heard it: “Have a bath! Light a candle!” And while those things are lovely, they don’t always touch the deeper layers of anxiety.
Real self-care isn’t always soft and Instagram-worthy. Sometimes it’s:
Saying no, even when you feel guilty
Logging off and actually resting
Eating something nourishing (or just… eating)
Asking for help
Letting something be good enough, not perfect
It’s less about fixing yourself and more about being on your own side.
A Few Self-Care Ideas for Anxious Days
Do one thing at a time – Multitasking fuels the overwhelm.
Lower the bar – You don’t need to tick every box today.
Get out of your head and into your body – A walk, a stretch, even a few deep breaths.
Talk to someone safe – Anxiety shrinks when it’s shared.
Create calm cues – A playlist, a scent, a cosy jumper — small signals of safety.
Final Thought
You don’t need to earn rest. You don’t have to hold it all together to be worthy of care. Anxiety might be loud, but it’s not all of you. Start where you are. Gently, honestly, and give yourself what you actually need, not just what sounds good on paper.
You’re doing better than you think.